| "The good thing about being a man: You don't give a | | | | There are many books on the subject, or, perhaps, |
| rat's ass if no-one notices your new haircut. Gray hair | | | | there should be a course in college: "Appearance 101: |
| and wrinkles add character." ~ AnonThe first time Alex | | | | How to look good," where they would learn about |
| and I went to Rod, our new hairdresser, I followed | | | | colors, styles, etc. My biggest pet peeve about |
| Alex to the chair and started giving my opinion on how | | | | men"too many of them to ignore" is the eternal cap |
| his hair should be cut. Rod immediately cut me off | | | | they insist upon wearing, that is so unbecoming and |
| saying: it is his hair, how about the two of us decide | | | | prevent us from looking them in the eyes.Speaking of |
| what looks good according to his wants?Of course, he | | | | cap, in all my classes, I used asked my students to |
| was very diplomatic as not to offend me, but I | | | | remove their hats so I could see their eyes. Some of |
| immediately caught the clue and asked him about this | | | | them resented that, but they all complied. One student |
| very topic. I told Rod I was writing this book and | | | | was very resistant but seeing that it was a good |
| needed to know more about this subject. He told me | | | | move to obey me, he did so. His hair looked unraveled, |
| that he feels sorry for the guys who come in with their | | | | of course; his appearance was not that impressive |
| girlfriends and they insist that their men have a certain | | | | either: he was overweight and sloppily dressed. Well, |
| hair cut. Men being the pleasing types they are, | | | | next class, I noticed that his hair was different. He had |
| immediately comply.I then kept thinking about dress | | | | cut it. Then, slowly, I noticed a significant change in his |
| style and so on and what I have imposed my taste on | | | | appearance. By the end of the 15 week semester, he |
| my partners. It is so very true that not only I, but many | | | | had lost 30lb, had bought new clothes, looked |
| of us, make our men have the appearance we want | | | | absolutely stunning, and found a nice girlfriend. Not to |
| them to. For instance, I like mustaches. Well, all my men | | | | mention that he got and "A" in the course. Now, is this |
| had a mustache when we were together. To my | | | | a good story or what? And just because I insisted he |
| husbands, I would buy them clothes I liked. It was | | | | removed his hat in class. He was absolutely grateful |
| always a matter of "educating" them to what looked | | | | and thrilled. And so was I.I am now teaching my son |
| good on them, regardless of what they thought would | | | | that first impressions count tremendously and that he |
| look good on them.I had a friend who was the nicest | | | | shall always strive to look his best: hair, clothes, shoes, |
| looking man in the city where we lived (to my taste, of | | | | teeth, ears, grooming, etc. Yet, it seems that there is |
| course). He used to wear dress pants, nice shoes, | | | | another faulty gene here (or is it in every man?) for |
| great shirts, suspenders, and a bow-tie. A bow-tie! | | | | many times he is totally inappropriate: the other day, he |
| That was incredibly charming. He told me that he was | | | | wanted to go to the opera wearing clothes that were |
| not always like that and that his girlfriend had taught | | | | 100% uncoordinated and tennis shoes! Gasp! Of |
| him how to dress. Way to go, woman!Granted, most | | | | course, I had him change but not without a little |
| men have no clue how to dress appropriately. They | | | | apprehension about my limiting his self expression.Now, |
| truly need help. I wonder why their mothers never | | | | this said and done, we must understand that, ultimately, |
| taught them that, or perhaps, they never learned. | | | | the way a man dresses needs to be entirely up to him. |